3 Perfect Questions That Will Have You Asking Yourself Are They The Right One For Me?
First dates are much more than two strangers meeting, they are also the possibility of “What If?”. Complete with emotional highs and lows, anticipation, excitement and hope and that’s before the dates even started! You want to make a good impression but, how do you get to know someone without the job interview vibe, and still make sure that you are asking the right questions?
The questions we ask have power. They can influence how a person sees you, inspire change, possibility and yes, attraction. Here are 3 must ask first date questions that will not only give you insight into the persons potential but keep your conversation out of the mundane and into something deeper and more interesting.
What are you looking for in a relationship?
A lot of people feel too shy to ask this question as if somehow they are going to chase away the person. In reality it’s to the contrary. If you’re dating to find a partner and have a family within a few years it’s the perfect question. Are they interested in settling down if they found the right person or just looking to explore and have fun for now?
Whatever it is, most people have relationship goals that they’re happy to share and from there you can either sort them in or out. Beware of the man who doesn’t want to share or simply says “I don’t know”, this is a sign that he is either immature or interested in something other than being in a serious relationship.
What kind of person are you looking for?
Who is your best fit? Are they looking for someone adventurous, who values freedom or someone that is nurturing, kind and passionate about community and family? Posing this question during a date not only ignites feelings of emotional connection but will serve to enlighten if you share similar core values and lifestyle.
This is probably my favorite question to ask, not only for first dates but in any conversation. Asking about hopes, dreams and goals is important but just as important is to follow up with the “Why” of it. Getting to the heart of why someone does something, gives you much better insight into who they are as a person and what motivates them over simply asking what is.
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