Women, Dating and Technology – Are You Making These Mistakes?
Love it or hate it, technology and dating is a reality in today’s modern world. While in theory it’s supposed to make communication easier, it can also add an unexpected layer of complication to things. When you pair it with dating, it can set you up for all kinds of slip-ups, misinterpretations and assumptions that can lead to problems that you aren’t prepared for. Here are the 6 most common ones and what you can do to avoid them.
1. Information Over Kill
Writing longwinded and overly detailed emails, texts and Facebook posts otherwise known as TMI is a huge turnoff. All these mediums have their place but during the first stages of dating, keep all written communication, text or social media as simple as possible. It’s best to get to know your new love interest in person. Chemistry and attraction is the strongest when built through one on one conversation, tone, eye contact, body language and touch.
When you first start dating, getting flirty over text can be fun. You start exchanging playful texts, one thing leads to another and all of a sudden things start heating up. Before you know it you’re caught up in a sexy conversation that is maybe a little soon. If you’re looking for a relationship, getting sexual over text before you’re actually in a relationship is going to keep you in the party girl / easy girl category. Be flirty but know your limits and save the dirty talk to keep things spicy once you get serious.
3. Imaginary Boyfriend Syndrome
I get a lot of women, saying to me that they have been texting a guy that they met online for months and have never actually connected in person. They even start to feel like they’re in a relationship. But don’t fool yourself, this is a symptom of “Imaginary Boyfriend Syndrome” and you can only stay in fantasyland for so long. That person isn’t real until you meet in person. Men respect a woman with boundaries, so set expectations as soon as possible. Keep texts short and sweet, get on the phone and meet in person as soon as possible.
4. Keeping Digital Relationships Just For The Attention
These types of relationships might look like, text only relationships from the guy you went on 1 or 2 dates with, Facebook interactions with old lovers, or people that you met online and only had a flirtation with. Either way they’re the people that get kept around mostly for an ego boost or to get a little attention when you’re feeling down. Hanging on to what might have been is not only a waste of your valuable time but it clutters up your energy. Let the past go and make space for new relationships to come into your life.
5. Changing your Relationship Status
Changing your relationship status on social media before you know if you’re exclusive can set you up for all kinds of drama. Remember everyone you know will see it and feel free to chime in and make all sorts of comments on it. If you aren’t introducing each other as boyfriend / girlfriend in real life to friends and family then it’s not a good idea to do it online until you are.
6. Airing Your Dirty Laundry
Think before you share intimate details of your relationship or dating life on Social Media. In the heat of the moment, we all say things that we don’t mean or regret saying immediately after. But once you hit that send button it’s there forever, even if you end up deleting the comment or post, it’s still there in some form and you never know who’s taking a screen shot and sharing. Stop, think and reread before you hit that send button.
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