It’s that time of year again, February 14th is just around the corner, and suddenly it becomes painfully obvious that everyone around you is coupled off. I know that this day can be tough, even if you think that you’ve got it all together. A part of you might be aching for the deep romantic connection that’s been missing from your life. To help you avoid those emotional pitfalls, I’ve put together a guide for you on what NOT to do, this Valentine’s Day.
1. Don’t Go On A First Date
Even if you’re a fairly even keeled and grounded person going on a first date on Valentine’s Day will pile on extra pressure and unrealistic expectations. If you’re feeling like you’d rather be on a date than be alone? Make a plan to have a girls night out. Believe it or not, Valentine’s Day can actually be one of the best days to meet single men. You can read all about the best way to here: How To Meet Single Men On Valentine’s Day.
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2. Don’t Call or Text Your Ex
Worst. Idea. Ever.
Thoughts of wanting to feel special and supported will naturally make you think of the last person you were with. Often with rose colored glasses. Don’t let the clouded memories and wishful thinking, of how good it could’ve have been “if only”, make you reach out to your past.
Your ex is your ex for a reason. Move forward and know that there is something better ahead for you.
If you’ve just gone through break up in the last 6 months read the Valentines Day breakup guide here.
3. Don’t Be A Hater
We’re constantly sending energetic messages out into the world around us. Hating on the day itself or on happy couples and ripping them apart to make yourself feel better, only affects you in the end.
Negative energy attracts negative energy. Drains you and ultimately will only make you feel worse. Likewise positive energy, attracts positive energy.
Become aware of the mindset that you’re in. If you find your thoughts starting to wander to a negative place, stop and replace it with an intent to look at the situation with a happier and more positive mindset.
4. Don’t Let Being Single Define You
Valentine’s day can make you feel like there’s a big spotlight shining on you. Brightly announcing to the world that, yes I’m single and alone. For many women, it’s not the first V-Day that they’ve been solo. Whatever your circumstances, don’t let being single define you.
A partner is great, but being in a romantic relationship, doesn’t validate you as a worthy person.
There is nothing wrong with being single.
The person you look at in the mirror every day is the one that knows you the best and can make you the happiest.
Do you love you? Take some time to love who you are, write down at least 12 or more things you love about yourself and put them up somewhere you can read and connect with every day. The more you love and accept yourself, the more you will be loved and accepted by a future partner.
5. Don’t Doubt That Your Soulmate Is Out There
Just because you aren’t with him right now doesn’t mean that he doesn’t exist. Try new things, create a new routine, go to new places in your city, travel the world. Keep believing, and never stop putting yourself out there. Always remembering that your great love exists and he’s looking for you too!
6. Don’t Forget To Celebrate Love
Valentines day is not just for couples. Make the day about connecting with the feeling of love for yourself, and for the other people that you’re grateful for in your life.
Let friends and family know how much you appreciate them. Babysit for a friend, make dinner for your parents, or get crafty and make a huge sparkly card for a kid.
When you spread the love around it will get you out of your head and shift you into a very positive place. Especially when you see all the smiles of those you’ve made feel exceptional.
7. Don’t Forget To Fall In Love With Yourself
Finally, now that you know what to not do on Valentines Day when you’re single, don’t forget the ultimate Do. To love on YOU! Treat yourself to something that makes you feel special, because you’re amazing and worth loving every day of the year.
Happy Valentines Day Beauties!
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