While it often feels like Valentine’s Day is reserved for couples in a romantic relationship, there’s actually plenty of opportunities to meet other single people. Yes ladies, it’s true. Though its seems counter intuitive you can actually meet single men on Valentines Day. Another bonus, if you head out to the right spots your chances of meeting a married man or guy with a girlfriend is pretty much zero.
Here’s How To Meet Single Men On Valentine’s Day
Your First Step
Keep in mind that your mindset and the intention that you bring to your dating life are going to determine both your results and the level of happiness you experience while dating. As a dating coach, I talk a lot about mindset because our emotions are a reaction to our thoughts. Not the other way around.
Your state of mind at any given time will set the tone for not just how you’re feeling in the moment, but also how confident that you’re coming across to others unconsciously with your body language. If you want to have a better time while dating you must become more conscious of your mindset. Your daily thoughts, feelings and actions and make sure that they’re aligned with your relationship goals.
When you wake up in the morning set your intention for the day. Then before you leave the house to start your night, set an intention to make the most of it and fully enjoy the evening. You decide. You can choose to be negative, think dating and Valentines day sucks and there are no good men. Or you can grow through what you are going through and have more fun in your life.
Be Willing To Get Uncomfortable
If you want to have something different you must do something different. Which is not always going to be the most comfortable thing in the world. Comfort is great if you’re happily living the life that you want. However, if you’re not where you want to be and you’d like to see something in your life change like, finding Mr. Right? You’re going to have to learn how to stretch and challenge yourself and be ok with it.
Remind yourself that you might feel lonely or down about being single, you aren’t alone. There are literally millions of other singles out there looking for love. It only takes one! Risk the uncertainty and the lack of comfort and find new ways to put yourself out there as often as possible.
Putting Your Best Foot Forward
If you don’t already know or feel stuck in a style rut. Find out what makes you feel vibrant, pulled together and sexy and dress the part. No, you do not have to be out in a dress and high heels if that isn’t your thing! Just make sure that you’re leaving the house looking as good as you want to feel. When you’re confident in your appearance, it can help give you the boost you need to flirt with that cute guy. No regrets!
On the with V Day plan! My suggestion is to break your evening into two parts and follow my flirting tips below to maximize your chances of meeting available men.
Stage 1: Early Evening After Work Drinks
If you don’t already have a work to evening bag ready to go (and you should, because well, you never know what the day will bring), put one together the night before. For many women this looks like packing a pair of high heels, makeup essentials for a quick touch up. Then accessories that take you from day to night. Dangly earrings and a statement necklace both work nicely.
For your day look wear something that is easily transformed to a casual but polished evening style. A tank top under a sweater or jacket is perfect. Add your heels, accessories, lip gloss and head out to your favorite spot for Happy Hour and bit of early evening socializing, using the simple and flirting tips below.
Set a two drink maximum. After all your night is just beginning. Feel free to pop back home, change to suit your needs, then on to the next stage.
Stage 2: On The Town With The Girls
Make plans to meet up later in the evening for drinks at an actual singles bar, sports bar or upscale hotel lounge with a couple of other single ladies. Keep in mind approachability when planning on who to ask to join you for the nights festivities. Make sure they are friends that are high vibing and as positive as you are about making the night fun. Guys do not want to approach a wall of girls, so there should be no more than three of you.
Make an extra effort to look special it will help shift you into flirt mode. Consider wearing red, as it has been found to actually increase attraction in the opposite sex. Also try wearing heels, even if they are kitten heels. Heels support good posture, make you stand taller, elevate your walk to a sexy sway and your butt will look amazing too!
Even if you are not the type to go to a typical singles bar, this is your evening to try something out of your comfort zone. Avoid bars or lounges in restaurants. After all you don’t want to see couples having romantic dinners or people getting proposed too. Remember you are there to have fun, relax and smile, your confidence will be magnetic.
If You Really, Really Don’t Want To Go To A Bar?
There are usually plenty of other options available to connect with singles.
Flirting 101 for a Great Evening
Men need strong clues that you are interested and are much more likely to approach you if you are approachable. Makes sense, right? Its really just a matter of opening up your body language, putting away the smart phone, making friendly eye contact and smiling warmly.
Strong eye contact is key for flirting and so is getting in the right frame of mind. I can never say this enough – the right mind set is the single most important thing you have, because whatever you’re thinking and feeling on the inside will radiate from you on the outside. The right mindset translates into confidence. And confidence is sexy!
The 5 Second Flirt
Now that you’re approachable, be The Chooser. Drop the handkerchief and let him know your interested. Smile and make eye contact, hold your gaze for longer than you think is possible. Three to five seconds should do it, look way smiling and look back again quickly with another smile and sparkly eyes. Practice before hand if you need to get more comfortable with the flirting process.
Have A Conversation Opener
Asking someone what they do for a living is the most asked question and also the most boring. Great conversation is about making a great emotional connection. If you aren’t the most practiced at this, have some interesting questions on hand, to help beak the ice.
A very simple technique that works very well is to ask him if he could take a photo of you and your friends, then start a conversation from there. You could also just be very simple “What was the best part of your week?” to playful “Cheers” and clink glasses. Its doesn’t have to be hard you just have to get the ball rolling. Asking a guy their opinion on something or giving him a compliment is also a good start. Think flirty.
For more flirting tips read 7 Flirting moves that get the guy.
Being confident and completely owning who you are is sexy, playfulness is sexy, smiling is sexy.
Enjoy your evening and send out great energy. Remember that dating and meeting new people should be a fun experience for you.
If you still feel like you want to hide yourself away and avoid the day all together, remember there’s no harm in getting out there and seeing what your options are.
Best case scenario? You meet the man of your dreams Worst case? You have a fun Valentines Day out with your girlfriends. There’s really nothing to loose.
Happy Valentines Day Beauties!
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