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Why You Didn’t Get That Second Date

5 Reasons Why You Didn’t Get That Second Date

First Dates are exciting, filled with anticipation and promise they can be the beginning of something really special or end right then and there. Sometimes the night leaves us thinking, “wow that went great” only to never hear from them again, with us left wondering what happened. Was it something we did or didn’t do? Never quite sure of the answer. Here are five of the biggest reasons why you aren’t getting a second date.

You Weren’t Present

Time and time again I work with clients who are so in their head that they aren’t actually present on the date. Instead they spend their time wondering if their date likes them, thinks their cute, funny or smart.  If you spend your entire date in your head you will never create the emotional connection you need to bond with this person. You won’t get to know them and they won’t get to know you, slow down, practice active listening and enjoy the date.

You’re Faking It

You aren’t being yourself, you’re being the best version of yourself that you think they want to meet. You have the perfect life, the perfect apartment, the perfect dog, friends, career, you don’t need anyone or anything because, well you’re perfect and everything is just so great. Relax and don’t try so hard to be flawless that they never meet the real you. Approach your dates as yourself, it’s ok to show your imperfections and be vulnerable, it’s part of the charm that makes us all unique and special.

You’re Oversharing

First dates aren’t for sharing all the deeply intimate details of your life. Stay away from talking about medical history, past relationships or family issues. Sometimes your date may be the one asking, and if you are online it’s pretty common to ask about previous dates. If they do ask, steer the conversation in another direction. Answer, something like “I have to you tell you about that sometime but right now I’d love to know more about your involvement with such and such” or their love of dogs, etc. Encourage sharing fun and interesting stories but keep it low key.

You’re Boring

You have nothing unique or interesting to add to the conversation or talk about work too much. A first date is about getting to know each other in the most authentic way possible. Your goal should be to understand the other better, be a great listener and ask relevant questions. You don’t have to be in serious mode the whole time, be a little flirty, tease, joke don’t be afraid to show your playful side.

You Didn’t Have Chemistry

Sometimes it goes really well and you both have a great time, but unfortunately the chemistry just isn’t there. Or sometimes maybe there is a goodnight kiss with a touch of chemistry but for whatever reason, it’s not you, or anything you did, it’s just not meant to be.

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